Monday, November 11, 2013



No Muslim in the name of being westernized, civilized or modern should get embarrassed, apologetic or questions the sanctity of Muhammad(pbuh) and Aisha marriage. The marriage was divine as it was just. There is no need to hide facts or twist history as if Allah owes anyone any explanation before he makes his decision. There is no need to create excuses like "she was matured", "arab grow fast" or she was tall", it means we are admitting that there is something wrong with Allah,s decision. Some even go as far as negating fact by saying that "she may not have been 6". It should suffice a Muslims to belief that Allah who created Aisha (RA) and Muhammad (SAW) decided this marriage by whatever age difference. The most authentic narration told us that Allah decided it and showed her to the prophet twice in a dream, and that she was 6 and the prophet 50 and the marriage consummated when she reached puberty at 9 and it remains so. Click this link for more detail.

Islam never made child marriage compulsory, neither did it recommended it or declared it as Haram. It is has been a matter and question of choice. Those who keep on maligning this marriage cannot even cite any instance when Aisha was ever displeased with her marriage to Nabee moreso she turned out as one of the greatest women of Islam and a champion of the prophet’s legacy till her death. Abu Musa Al-Ashari narrated that “never had we any difficulty but we approach Aisha for the solution and never did we meet her that we didn’t get any useful information from her. (Tirmidhi)

Child marriage was customary in that era and the prophet was not the first to propose to Aisha, she was already betrothed at that age to Jubayr ibn Mu’tim but engagement was nullified when Jubayr refused to accept Islam. Also even before the prophet made his intention known, the decision to marry Aisha was suggested to him by his aunt khawlah bint Hakim.

Child marriage was as well customary among the Jews and Christians of that era and it was practice without any restriction among the roman Christians of the Byzantium empire and was never seen as improper in the historical context since a person at puberty was considered an adult and not a child as the modern word defines it. That was why there was never a historical record of the pagan, Jews and Christians criticizing any of the prophet’s marriages until some few centuries ago, about 1400 years later when the Orientals began to judge Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa salam by modern world standard.

In the medievial jewish community of Ashkenazi, girls were married off as a ketannah. A ketannah (literally meaning little [one]) was any girl between the age of 3 years and that of 12 years plus one day; a ketannah was completely subject to her father's authority, and her father could arrange a marriage for her without her agreement

Early marriage was also common even in the west before the industrial revolution and was never seen as improper as individuals were considered mature at an earlier age. In early Christian European societies, children were betrothed to each other as young as infants and would marry when they meet the age of consent 12 for girls and 14 for boys. Christian royal monarchs’ children were married as early as early as age 8-10 mostly to secure a political and/or financial tie. The betrothal is considered a binding contract upon the families and the children. The breaking of a betrothal can have serious consequences both for the families and for the betrothed individuals themselves.

Anne de mowbray 8th countess of norfolk died as a child bride at the age of nine. she was the bride of richard of shrewsbury

Richard II, aged 29, married 2nd wife Isabella of Valois in 1396 when she was 6, yes 6. They were married for 4 years until his death. The marriage was political, never consummated, and actually grew to like each other as friends if a 29 year old can be "friends" with a 6 year old.

Henry VIII, aged 49, married Catherine Howard when she was about 16 years old.

Lady Jane Grey was about 15 when she married her child groom who was about 16 or 17.

King James I, aged 23, married Anne of Denmark when she was 14.

Charles I, aged 25, married Henrietta Marie of France when she was 13.

William III and Mary II ruled jointly. Mary was 15 when she married her 27 year old 1st cousin.

Richard III, aged 19, married Anne Neville when she was 16.

Henry VI, aged 23, married Margaret of Anjou when she was 15.

Henry IV, aged 14, married 1st wife Mary de Bohun when she was 12.

Richard II, aged 14, married 1st wife Anne of Bohemia when she was 15.

Edward III, aged 13, married Philippa of Hainault when she was 13.

In mexico they have what is called a "quinceanera (coming-of-age), parties for 15-year-old girls that send the signal that they are ripe for marriage

The fact that some teenager got VVF during her pregnancy does not mean every teenager most have VVF and it does not mean that non teenagers will not have VVF. VVF is a diseases of poverty and ignorance that is why we don’t hear of it in the west despite the fact that their teenage get pregnant and give birth even at the age twelve but they have a problem if she does so while married what an irony. Our grandmother, mothers and aunts started their child birth at puberty and never had VVF.

As for saying that consummating a marriage at puberty is unnatural, what makes it so? Is it that sexual development is absent at puberty or what? If not why is premarital and pornography rampant among teenagers under the guises that “puberty comes with a lot of sexual feeling”?

For those who consider it as a crime should know that for us Muslims morality is dictated by Allah not by some majority of people or many nation. And so a right remains right even if the majority says it is not and a wrong remains wrong even if the majority says it is not that is why we consider democracy as haram

And by the way, who are those dictating what is moral today? Is it not the same nations that condemn polygamy but condone fornication, adultery and homosexually, is it not those that condemn teenage marriage yet condone teenage premarital sex teenage and support it with contraception and abortion clinics.


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